14 Years of Perspective

At FFC we started a new Message Series entitled Perspective. We're looking at those things in life that shape our views in all areas of life... kind of like sunglasses. One of the truths is that our perspective determines our experiences.

Media, family up-bringing, other people, past experiences and many other things want to shape our perspective of life, especially marriage. Even me writing these things have the potential of shaping your perspective of marriage. You and I have the power to choose to whom or what we will authority and influence into our marriage. Angie and I have determined to allow God's Word to have that authority in our lives and in our marriage.

This leads to some more reflections of our 14 years of marriage:

6. Growing Vision For Your Future - What do you want to see in your marriage in the next 5, 10 or 20 years down the road? Those seeds are being planted right now! For many couples, after the kids the out of the house, they find themselves flat footed, disconnected from their spouse because their vision never went past their kids. What you did up till now may be great, but it must continue to grow and change. I'm not the perfect husband, but I'm a changing husband. Learning how to become what God desires me to be as a man and husband.

7. Push Each Other's Limits - This isn't about getting on each other's nerves, but being the greatest fan of your spouse. Help the other reach and fulfill their potential in their life: going back to school, taking that next position at work, running a marathon, getting involved in sports leagues once again... Although you're married, there's still incredible talents and potential that God has planned for our lives. Instead of being idle and stuck in the routine of life, let your spouse know that you believe in them and see the incredible potential that still awaits them.

Ask God to give you a fresh new perspective in your marriage. Don't try to go back and live the 'good old days', but passionately pursue the greater days that are still to be lived!