One Thought on Marriage

This weekend will by my last wedding ceremony for 2009. It's been a busy spring and summer for weddings, 8 total. I meet with each couple anywhere from 4 - 8 times leading up to the day of the wedding. It's a lot of work, but it's worth it and I enjoy each opportunity.

Angie and I have been married for 14 years. I can honestly say that I love her more now than ever before, and absolutely enjoy sharing my life with her. We compliment each other, laugh a lot, still date regularly, and bring out the best in each other. We work hard at our marrige... learning, growing and investing regularly into our marriage. God has been faithful in our marriage... mainly by working in our hearts as individuals to be the person we need to be... THEN we can be the spouse we desire to be for each other. We are looking forward to the many more years!

Here's one thought for anyone planning a wedding, thinking about marriage, or wonder if marriage is really worth it. DON'T GET MARRIED!  Let me explain... If you're not fully committed to WORK every single day... don't get married. What does this work look like?

• sacrifice - placing more value on the other person than yourself
• forgive - if you have expectaitons, you'll be disappointed, if you have feelings; warm fuzzies go away and hurts will happen. Don't get married if you're not willing to forgive over and over again.
• no ideal conditions - if you're waiting for Mr/Mrs. perfect, you'll never get married, because you're not perfect. If you want financial stability, there's no such thing.
• no vacations - you can't call in sick, there's no time outs, and even when you're apart or by yourself, your actions will always have an impact on your spouse.
• long meetings - this is about communication. If you're more concerned about being right or proving your postion, don't get married. If you aren't willing to share your thoughts and feelings and work through the differences... don't get married. If you want to talk more than listen... don't get married. If you make excuses and don't take responsibility... D.G.M.!

These are just a few raw and really facts that you may never hear from others, and it may not even be on your radar. But if you are willing to work hard, be committed and constantly grow as a person, allowing God to work in your heart; in every aspect of your life, then go for it!